I like options!

I'm an options kind of gal. So, you might be feeling a little overwhelmed with all the information (or lack thereof) about giving birth. But don't worry, I’ve got you! 

Here are 10 things your doctor probably didn't tell you about giving birth that will help you feel more prepared and in control. 

(And hey, if these pique your interest, bring these up to your doctor at the next appointment!) 

You don't have to give birth in the hospital.

Giving birth at home or in a birth center can provide a more relaxed and intimate setting for the birth of your baby. It allows you to have more control over the birthing process and can provide a more personalized experience. This option is safe for low-risk pregnancies and has similar or better outcomes compared to hospital births.

There are many excellent and well-loved non-hospital birth centers between Seattle and Bellingham, including Arlington's Special Delivery Co, Mount Vernon Birth Center, and Bellingham Birth Center!

There are also MANY midwives serving home births in the area! That will have to be another post because there are so many AMAZING providers! If you ever want to message and ask me about options, please do! Contact me, let's chat!


Epidurals are not the only form of pain relief available during labor.

Epidurals are a common form of pain relief during labor, but they are not the only option available. Other forms of pain relief include nitrous oxide, spinal blocks, and natural methods such as hypnobirthing, acupuncture and massage. Your doula may have a TENS unit she can use to help you. These options can provide a more natural and less invasive form of pain relief.


You can bring your own music or sounds to the delivery room.

Music can have a powerful impact on our emotions, and it can help create a calm and soothing environment for you during labor. You can bring your own playlist, a sound machine, or even your own voice to help you relax and focus during labor.

Birthing pools can help you feel more comfortable and relaxed during labor.

Warm water can help ease the pain and discomfort of contractions, and it also allows you to move around more easily, which can help the baby move down the birth canal. Birthing pools can also provide a sense of privacy and intimacy during labor. Most birth centers have birthing tubs, and many midwives have portable tubs that can be set up in your home as well.



You will probably poop during labor (and that's okay!).

It's a normal and natural part of the birthing process, and your nurses and doctors are used to it. Don't let this concern hold you back, it's nothing to be embarrassed about.


Birthing positions - there are many different positions that can help make the birthing process easier.

There are various birthing positions that can help make the birthing process easier, such as standing up, sitting down, on your hands and knees, or even lying down. Experiment with different positions to find what feels most comfortable for you.


My first two babies I pushed on the bed, the second two I found squatting/using the birthing stool was comfortable and effective!


Doulas are a great support and aren’t only used for birth.

A doula is a professional trained to provide emotional and physical support to a woman and her partner during pregnancy, labor, delivery, and postpartum period. A doula can help you with relaxation techniques, provide emotional support, and advocate for your wishes during birth.



You can eat and drink during labor, if you want to.

Having a light snack can help keep your energy levels up. It's important to listen to your body and your healthcare provider during labor, and to make sure you are well-hydrated and nourished.



The power of the mind - visualization and other relaxation techniques can help during labor.

Visualization and relaxation techniques such as hypnobirthing, yoga, and meditation can help you stay calm and focused during labor. It can also help to lower stress hormones and increase endorphins, which can make labor more manageable.



Cesarean sections are not as scary as they seem.

C-sections are a common form of delivery and can be planned or unplanned. Your doctor and nurses will take great care of you and your baby during the procedure. It's important to remember that a c-section is a surgical procedure and there are risks associated with it, but it can also save the lives of both mother and baby in certain situations.

I was delivered C-section! My mom intended a fully natural vaginal delivery, and labored many hours at home, but that's how it worked out, and we are both grateful!

You can bring people into your hospital room!

I know we have been reprogrammed during covid that only ONE support person can accompany you. Not anymore! (Most places- again, ask your doctor about the rules at your birthing facility!)

You may bring your partner, your mother/sister, a doula, AND a photographer!



So, there you have it, mama. You're armed with some new information that will hopefully help you feel more confident and excited about your birth! 

Scroll down for a list of questions related to the points above that you can print and take with you to your next doctor's appointment!

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